In a world where we're constantly barraged with messages telling us to look this way, act that way, smile nice, be pleasant and don't rock the fucking boat, it's little wonder that most people have a difficult time embracing their true, authentic selves.
Although true for either sex, women typically draw the short straw when it comes to societal expectations of behaving and acting a certain way. Very rarely do you ever hear men being told to smile more, dress their age, or watch their language.
This, simply put, is bullshit.
Everyone out there deserves to be living their best life- and the first step to this? To be loudly, unapologetically, YOU.
Humans are social creatures, and from birth we are conditioned to fit into groups. We have evolved with these amazing capabilities like empathy and compassion- traits that allowed us to form relationships with each other and act for the good of the group.
Where this becomes problematic is when we feel so compelled to “fit in” and get along, that we lose our own voices and the courage to chase our dreams.
If you're looking to fully embrace your badass authentic self, look deep inside for what you truly believe in that sets your heart on fire. Tune out all the bullshit noise about what you should have/feel/be doing, and really listen to that inner voice. That bitch is your authentic self just begging to be heard, acknowledged and set free!
Another key to truly embracing your authentic self (and I cannot stress this one enough):
Fuck. What. Other. People. Think.
In the modern age we are more connected than ever through the Internet and social media, it can be all too easy to keep fitting into boxes to ease the fear of other people's judgment.
Let me tell you this- if someone is out there wasting their time and energy trying to drag you down, that is not a reflection of you, but it does say volumes about them.
If you are spending your time and energy being fiercely, unapologetically you- that is time well spent.
Don't waste a single fuck on critics.
Last but not least, treat yourself with grace and acceptance.
Your authentic self may be a bad motherfucker, but she isn't perfect. Nurture your passions, take care of yourself and treat yourself with kindness.
As with most things in life, you get what you put in. So if you're allowing yourself to grow and flourish, without burdening yourself with unnecessary pressure and expectations, you're essentially letting yourself be free to live your truth.
And that's really the fucking dream, isn't it?